Patao Basics - Chapter 1

Hey!

Since I don't have too much time on my hands right now, I will lay down a few postulates, which will be explained in detail in my forthcoming posts:

1. One of the most important secrets to attracting women is to be attractive to yourself first.

2. Women are lovely beings, respect them. But at the same time, know who you are and what you want. This will help you gain respect from women, and reduce chances of being brushed aside because, let's face it, nobody likes being dumped. This is the cornerstone of building an attractive self. Mind you, this is going to go a long way in shaping your personal life. Confidence, masculinity, free thought and speech and openness are the keys to success with women in India.

3. Don't fret over a failed relationship / a failed proposition you made. Look at it this way, the more failed relationships you have, the more you know what NOT to do. This would help you get the girl you've always wanted. Now you even know where NOT to look.

4. Love and Romance, though fulfilling, MUST NOT be given more importance than other things in life. Think about what would make you feel better about yourself; could be hitting the gym, playing sport, yoga, meditation, movies. Learn to relax and introspect. Once you find yourself and you know how to master your own mind, then the world of women are awaiting your esteemed presence!!

4. Relationships need to be enjoyed, not worked upon - Life is short, learn to enjoy it. Be smart and don't get into a situation where you need to constantly "work things out". I'm sure that if you think through your head and not through other anatomical organs, you'll know what I mean.

5. Don't go chasing a woman just because it gives you a thrill. A major pitfall with this is, that once you get the girl, you'll want to chase another one. Remember, being a player might be fun, but needlessly breaking someone's heart could only get you into trouble. Besides, in India not too many women choose to date players. Though they are incredibly attracted to such men, they can't even think about being in a relationship that constantly threatens them into insecurity. They choose the safer option; to 'settle' for a nice guy who would do anything for them at the bat of an eyelid. Those women know what they want, and peace to them. There certainly are ways to work around this, though.

6. Don't chase a woman beyond a point. Let her chase you instead. Women are known to be VERY vulnerable when they know that someone likes them. typically, they would start paying more attention to what you say or do. Let them know in no uncertain terms that you like them. But DONOT expect them to say anything. This would also increase your chances of getting the chick, when in the first place, you never really wanted them. You were only just... "expressing" yourself. ;-)

More to come soon...Meanwhile, feel free to post your thoughts or questions. We're only here to help you. :-)

Cheers!!

The Pied Piper

Getting The Dream Woman is like Hunting a Tiger

Hey!

It's been a while, but we've been busy with many things. I thought I'd drop by and scribble a few thoughts.

A friend of ours, over dinner and drinks, confessed that he has been feeling 'lonely' for a while now, but has not been able to find the right girl. He's seen 2 girls who are all over him once they get a little loosened up, and I wouldn't blame them, the chump is smart, knows his way around and is more than a 'catch', in women's parlance. Nomseng. ;-) His real problem is that noone ever 'matches' up to the standards he's set for them. No big deal, mister!

It's a weird situation to be in, we KNOW, to reject the advances of your naive girl-next-door-who-swoons-at-your-every-move. But imagine pandering to her advances, just because you can't get yourself to make the first move, and 3 years later, you're still stuck with her, if not to her. ;-)

Here's why.

P. A friend of ours. He met this girl when he was about 18 who couldn't take his eyes off of him. P was obviously, overwhelmed as she seemed to give him the best ego-massage he's ever got. Since P had no quality standards to look for in a woman, so to speak, he hooked up with her and had a blast!

Six months down, the honeymoon lake was drying up and he started feeling like a ship stranded in a sandbar. A lot of things he wanted to see in his girl were just not there, among other peeves which showed up in her. She turned out to be the typical guy's nightmare- girlfriend, poking into everything he did, hankering, bickering, rationed sex sessions, etc. But by then, she was too emotionally attached to him and he was also being dragged into the "I'm the best you can get" crevasse. Though he'd whine about her all the time, he just wouldn't do anything about it.

Fast forward to three years later: He's still with her, and has completely 'surrendered'. He doesn't come out to drinks/poker/party/football nights anymore, and when his girlfriend is NOT on the phone monitoring his whereabouts, he's busy watching porn. So... you see how detrimental a bad relationship investment can be to your love life?

Make your decisions wisely, and patiently. It doesn't take long for to make your move on the dream woman who swooshes by you at a coffee shop, but it takes more guts to wait patiently for her to do that. That said, a fair idea of what kind of girl you want to be with needs to come from within, from a place where only you can look into. You know the place, you just have to start looking.

Its pretty simple, if you know what you're looking for, you'll find it. If you don't, you'll try and make everything you find look like your treasure chest and fail miserably.

Cheers!

Pied Piper

Back With a Bang!

Hey there!

Both Pied Piper and I have been busy with other stuff for the past couple of months...

But our pals have been upto their usual misadventures in their quest for finding that right woman... So its been interesting... From giving advice and quick tips, to deep gyaan and philosophical theory, to downright bitchslapping them and yelling at them to get a life, to celebrating their successes and sharing new insights gained in the process...
: )

A reader commented on an earlier post saying he wished he'd read it earlier... I'm glad people I don't know are also finding my "tips" useful...
It's time to spread the word, and start making the world a better place... ; )

I've structured my thoughts somewhat in the last few months... I'm going to be writing on...
Patao Theory
Patao Techniques
Patao Stories
Patao Thoughts
Patao Zen...
and lotsa other random stuff... : )