The Language of Love... Poetry?

Let me tell you about one of my buddies - Mr. A.

This guy's decently good looking, but sort of a geek. He's smart and pretty well read. He talks well and is pretty confident in general.
Basically, he's got tons of potential!

The topic of women came up came up today. He's 23, but has never had a girl friend till date.

Me : So have you had a crush on any girl?
A : Quite a few!
Me : Did you ask anyone out?
A : Um... I told one of them. The only one I REALLY liked.
Me : So... What happened then?
A : She ran away!
Me : LOL! How'd you tell her? *eager anticipation*
A : I wrote her a poem. I dint know what I was doing... It was 1 at night!
Me : So you read her a poem at 1 o clock at night!?
A : No... *sheepish* I put it on my blog, and she read it there. We talked about it, and she told me it was a little artificial, very amateurish and lacked "art"... blah blah...
Me : So then?
A : Then what? Nothing happened... Cut gaya mera!

Then he told me how he'd read Pride and Prejudice a month later, and in there the main guy Darcy tells the main girl Elizabeth about his friend who tries to impress a girl by writing her a poem, but it backfires royally.
Elizabeth is like "No shit! He scared her away!"
Darcy goes "But isn't it said that poetry is the language of love? Don't women just love poetry and all that jazz?"
Elizabeth replies "Poetry is the language of mature, developed love!"

Mr. A was like "I wish I'd read that earlier! Dang it!"

And I was smiling to myself thinking, "At least he learnt from his mistake!"
But the poor guy hasn't asked any girl out since.

Lessons?
1. Do not write poetry at 1 am!
2. Writing sappy poetry doesn't seem to make a girl fall in love with you.

Lotsa smart guys, have tons of potential, but just don't "get" how to get women. They tend to think that doing something like writing her a super romantic poem or serenading her or taking her out for an expensive dinner will show her what a nice guy you are, and she will fall hopelessly in love with you.

I'm not saying that you can't do nice things for women. You can and you should... but later on!
Listen to Lizzy, and keep these for later... for when its a "mature & developed love"

Do NOT come on too heavy in the beginning! Its scary for a girl. Think about what her natural response will be...
"Shit! He's really into me... He's going to call me 5 times a day (like the last 5 guys), and ask me what I'm up to, or say sappy stuff like 'I just wanted to hear you're voice'. Then he'll ask me out, and I'll have to say no and break his heart, after which he'll go all senti on me!...
RUNNNN before its too late!!!"

Take it nice and slow... Don't show too much romantic interest up front. Have fun, kid around, flirt with her...
Keep her guessing for a bit... Let her wonder whether you like her or not... and give her a chance to miss you and think about you!

She will enjoy that much more than wondering how to get rid of you cos you're coming on too strong/direct.

If only Mr. A had read the book earlier, he might not have messed up his chances with that girl.

Way too many guys are messing up their chances cos no one's taught them how to attract women...
And so many women are missing out on great guys, cos noone's taught the guys how NOT to repel women.

Thats what we're here for ladies and gentlemen... Welcome to the The PataoProject!

Why did she break up with you?

Here are a few questions to ponder over:

When was the last time you were with a woman? Don’t remember?
When was the last time you were DUMPED by your date or girlfriend?
Hang on, did she really dump you or did you dump yourself out of your chances?

If I were you, I wouldn’t waste too much time on sulking over a sour or bad relationship. It’s all a waste of time and energy and involves too much self-pity. If you observe carefully, self-pity is the primary cause for your diminished self-image. The more you sulk and mourn your loss and how life is unfair to you, the more you will hurt your self-image.

Life for you would be much easier if you treated your sour relationship as a bad investment, although this might sound very harsh.

There’s only one way to strengthen your confidence. Respect yourself and your choices. Without that, you’ll be prone to hurting yourself time and again. The idea is to NOT let go of your conscious self, even while falling ‘head over heels’ in love with someone. This will help you build a mature, positive and emotionally stable relationship. Research today is showing that love is, after all, a bunch of chemical reactions in your head. So, really guys, focus on how to improve your chemistry, and not work on ‘mending the heart’. :-D

Who knows, you're old flame who had stabbed you in the heart earlier, might fall head over heals for your new and improved self. And then maybe, you wouldn't want her any more. But in either case, you have the power of choice. :-)

Work on it.